Men’s Work
Psychotherapy in-person in Boulder & online throughout Colorado
I’m Joe.
I work with men who are ready—or even just willing—to start looking inward. Therapy with me is collaborative. It’s not about me telling you who you are or how to fix things. It’s about creating a space where you can slow down, listen to what’s underneath the surface, and develop a relationship with yourself that feels honest and supportive.
We might talk about relationships, masculinity, intimacy, emotional expression, fatherhood, anger, fear, purpose—or we might just start with whatever feels most immediate. There’s no pressure to “go deep” right away. The goal isn’t to be perfect or endlessly introspective—it’s to get real, even if it’s awkward at first.
You don’t have to know what you’re doing. You don’t have to have a plan. You just have to show up, however you are. That’s where the work begins.
And if you’ve never been in a space like that before, I get it. That was me too.
I didn’t grow up with a clear idea of what it meant to be a man—just a lot of unspoken rules and mixed messages. It wasn’t until I started seeing a male therapist that I began to unpack all of that. He helped me explore what it meant to show up fully—not just as a man, but as a person with a whole range of emotions, needs, and contradictions. That experience stuck with me.
In the past few years, I’ve been part of a men’s group where I’ve continued that work—learning how to listen, how to speak honestly, and how to hold space for others without needing to fix or figure it all out. I’ve learned that men’s work isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about learning how to be more of yourself, without apology. It’s a space where strength doesn’t mean shutting down, and vulnerability doesn’t mean weakness.
A lot of men come into therapy unsure of what they’re even supposed to say. There’s often a feeling of needing to have it all together—or at least act like it. Some carry shame, anger, grief, or confusion they’ve never had a safe place to explore. Others feel flat, disconnected, or numb, like they’ve been running on autopilot. Some are high functioning but deeply anxious. Some are great at taking care of everyone else but have no idea what they actually need.
What is men’s work?
There’s often not much room for men to talk openly about what they’re feeling—let alone to feel safe doing so. Many of us grew up with messages that said “be strong,” “don’t cry,” or “figure it out on your own.” Men’s work is about creating a space where those expectations can be unpacked, redefined, and healed.
This work isn’t about fixing you or asking you to be someone else. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that may have been quieted, ignored, or never given permission to exist. In sessions, we explore themes like emotional expression, fatherhood, intimacy, identity, anger, purpose, and vulnerability—without judgment.
Whether you’re feeling disconnected, struggling in relationships, navigating a life transition, or simply looking for something more meaningful, this is a space to show up as you are. There’s strength in softness, and there’s power in being seen.
